Friday, May 20, 2016

If a thing is hard to do ...

Tra la la la la la la Try, Try Try
(click on the link to hear my nephew Asher sing this song)

For some reason our family sang this song at every family home evening. I'm not sure where it came from. It isn't a primary or church song from what I can tell. But I love it. And perhaps subconsciously it has helped me persevere through some hard things or difficult times.

Today I studied Sister Neil Marriott's talk from the women's session of general conference titled, What Shall We Do?

So many things struck me from her words ... 
  • We all have unique gifts that we can use for good to NURTURE ourselves, each other, our families, everyone around us
  • To mother means ... TO GIVE LIFE
  • We can use these unique gifts to nurture and CREATE emotional healing places for each other 
  • We can use these unique gifts to help others feel like they belong and are in a spiritually safe place
  • As we endure hard things and difficult times with patience, our hearts are being purified and we become more tender, more charitable, more empathetic
  • Sisters naturally love to gather and talk ... we can let this natural desire grow into opportunities to teach and lead and nurture each other
  • We can love others (and show that love) by making space for them in your life
Sister Marriott concludes her talk with this quote, "All of us need a spiritual and physical place of belonging. We, sisters of all ages, can create this; it is even a holy place."

I sincerely desire that we will try to love (make space in our lives), nurture, and serve each other. As we do this through visiting teaching or otherwise, we will all help create this spiritual and physical place of belonging.

I love you each of you. I truly do. I hope my nephew Asher singing "Try, try, try," brings a smile to your face. I hope we can be there for each other as we build each other, lift each other, and recognize that we are all just "try, try, trying."

Sunday, May 15, 2016

Compassionate Service - how can you help?

One of the things I love about human beings is the inherent quality we each seem to have to serve.  Just this last week I watched as my 1 year old niece rushed to comfort her 8 month old cousin who was crying.  She hurried as fast as her little legs could carry her and gave him one of the most comforting things to her, her binki :)  I believe that everyone, no matter their age, continues to have a deep desire to serve those around them.  As we get older though the demands for our time grow and grow and we may feel that we struggle to find the time to serve others around us.  Yes, it is important to do those big service projects that come up from time to time, but I believe that it is the small, seemingly insignificant, things we do that can make the largest impact in the world.  

The following video illustrates this beautifully using dominoes and a from a quote from President Spencer W. Kimball.



So often, our acts of service consist of simple encouragement or of giving mundane help with mundane tasks, but what glorious consequences can flow from mundane acts and from small but deliberate deeds! ~President Spencer W. Kimball

Within our ward there are countless little things that our sisters and brothers are struggling with and could use a little bit of help.  We all know that when we are having a tough day sometimes a little smile, even if we hardly know the person, can turn things around for us.  As a compassionate service committee we have come up with a couple of ways for us to first, know what would best help our sisters in times of trial and second, to organize our relief effort.

If you haven’t done so yet we would love for you to complete a simple form about your food likes and dislikes so that if circumstances arise for you where you suddenly need help we can better provide the tailored aid you need http://goo.gl/forms/O3UKPSmCK7 .

The second part of this effort is to provide the aid to our sisters around us.  We all know and have seen the truth of the statement “many hands make light work”  This is especially true for service.  When someone is in need of a meal it doesn’t take much for us to provide one meal.  If I’m needing to cook every night, then it can become a little overwhelming.  We have created a google doc that will help us coordinate our service effort: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1V0iLDL6lXqnOYElm8sTnyJEQTNO57UqazJW1fvZKNw8/edit?usp=sharing
On this you will notice several tabs at the bottom that will direct you to sign ups for different kinds of service.  From meals that need to be delivered, to rides that are needed, to larger service projects that will come up from time to time there is something for everyone to do to serve.

Thank you sisters for everything you do on a daily basis to make the world around you a better place.  We love and admire you for the lives you are leading.

Please let us know if there is anything we can do to better serve you.

Tanya Gale, Compassionate Service Committee

Sunday, May 1, 2016

Meet Crista Hill


This week's sister spotlight:

Meet Crista Hill





All Hill (ahem, Hail) the New Graduate!

It’s that time of year when we get to celebrate our recent grads (and when professors are finally reappearing from the grading dens and returning to spotlights! Sorry!). One of those in our Relief Society is the lovely Crista Hill. Hailing from San Jose, California, Crista has just graduated with an MBA from BYU. The 3rd of 9 children (who has 2 sets of twin siblings!) born on Christmas Eve, Crista is an aunt to 7 nieces and nephews with another on the way. With most of her siblings in Utah now (though she’s also got a brother in Oregon), her big family has moved “east”, too!


No, Not THAT Hollister
When Crista told me about growing up in Hollister, California, I had to ask. Nope. The clothing company did not take its name from the lovely town where Crista grew up. Instead, it got its name from a fake beach they made up. Kinda underscores how cool this real Hollister must be if it inspired a fake beach AND produced an awesome person like Crista!

Where’s the Bacon?
Crista’s family had a lot of fun vacations. She loved visiting the farm in Idaho where her mom grew up. One summer when she was about 8, Crista even helped raise 2 calves. When she was little, they even had pigs, pigs that she absolutely loved. Crista loved being in the country. But then one time, she got there full of anticipation only to discover there were no pigs. But there was lots of bacon. . . .

You Can Take that to the Bank!
After taking a four year break following her undergrad in Finance at BYU, Crista returned to school to her MBA. During that hiatus, she worked for 2.5 years as a Commercial Credit Analysit at American West where she helped process loans for local businesses including writing up the documents those businesses needed for loan approval. She then returned to California to earn her teaching credentials at San Jose State in Elementary Ed.

When Your Family becomes a Moving Target
So, you know when you move closer to family only to have family move to where you are coming from? Ya, that happened to Crista when she moved back to San Jose. Her dad got a job here in Provo not too long after she returned “home”! When she had her teaching credentials in hand, she moved back to Utah and taught 5th grade for one year. While there were things she liked a lot about teaching, it became clear that this was not what she wanted to do long term.

Pick Your Stress!
Crista’s next move was to return to the world of finance, working with the ultra high stress firm Goldman Sachs for 8 months. Living in the Avenues in Salt Lake in a small studio apartment, it quickly became clear that no matter how stressful it was working at Goldman, it was still less stressful than teaching elementary school. (Hopefully that helps us all be more appreciative of the lives of our sisters who are teachers! J)

MBA = Many Brilliant Adventures (ahead!)
When Crista and I spoke a few weeks ago, she was looking for a job in finance in either Utah or California. Would she prefer a big firm or a small one? Well, she sees the benefits in both. She enjoyed her time at Goldman’s (big!), plus how could she not have liked her internship in Summer 2015 at Amazon (ginormous!) in Seattle. Right next to the water, near outdoor activities, lots of new buildings, new apartments, art and culture. What was there not to like? (Seriously, if you are looking at a change in your current direction, Crista could very well talk you into a job in business with all the cool things she’s gotten to see and do!)

Climb Every Mountain . . . in a Harness and the Right Shoes
So what does Crista do when she’s not rocking the world of finance? You’ll find her hanging
out (literally) on the side of some rock wall. Crista loves climbing and even has membership at one of the local climbing walls. One of the nice things about climbing is that “once you have the gear, the rock is free” (you can quote her on that!). She goes sport climbing up into some canyon on the weekend with her sister (and is generally climbing somewhere a couple of times a week!). For those who have been interested in trying rock climbing, it’s never too late. Crista got started about 5 years ago as a means of getting on good exercise and relieving stress. Some of her favourite places are Rock Canyon and American Fork Canyon. So what can you do during the winter? Well, Vegas also has some good rocks to climb, too, and none of the snow. A while back she went on a trip to Vegas with some people from her old ward. They rented a house and spent the weekend climbing during the winter when the weather was perfect.

Climb High!
Climbing, as it turns out, has some good life lessons. Understandably, climbing is no easy task for those afraid of heights because if you want to get up to the top, the reality is that while there may always be easier routes, there are no lower routes if you want to climb higher. Like life, climbing is a head game.

Yes, I did Say “Primary” and “Singles Ward” in the Same Breath
One of Crista’s favourite callings was when she served as Primary President in a singles ward in South Provo. Yes. I just wrote that. Someone brought their 3 kids to the ward and so they created a primary headed up by yours truly, Crista Hill. The calling lasted a semester, but the memories will last a lifetime. For Crista, it was fun to get back to the basics as she worked with the kids, getting to sing Primary songs and work on fun projects.

Perspectives
Crista’s friends would tell you that she’s pretty easy going, likes to have fun, and is
organized. I’m going to add that she’s got funny stories to tell, too! But when it comes down to it, Crista would hope that others would see her as someone they can rely on to do what she says as well as someone who tries her hardest and respects all people no matter who they are and where they are from.

Forget Energy Drinks . . .
Life in general energizes Crista. Seeing all the people she cares about and trying to move forward in life, constantly working to improve herself, that’s what drives Crista!

Favourite Last Words!
Crista’s favourite quote is one from journalist Jenkin Lloyd Jones that if often attributed to Pres. Hinckley:

“Anyone who imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he’s been robbed. The fact is that most putts don’t drop, most beef is tough, most children grow up to just be people, most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration, most jobs are more often dull than otherwise. Life is like an old time rail journey…delays…sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling burst of speed. The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride."

Now, make sure to take the time to congratulate Crista and our other graduates whom we will continue spotlighting in the coming weeks.

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Keep on Learning

We had a great Relief Society activity tonight. Thanks to all who came! 


Here is the video that Mandi made honoring our graduates. 

And here is the quiz that we used for the networking activity. See how well you do ... email me (katybknight@gmail.com) if want to know the answers. Corinne Merzlock earned the high score with 55 correct answers.

Most importantly, below are the resources that Carla Zollinger shared with us available for free to Provo residents at the Provo Library. I for one am going to take advantage of this amazing resource just a couple of blocks away from my home! I heard rumors of a book club starting up .. wink wink Janet Lawrence.

At Your Library www.provolibrary.com
·         Learning Express Library - http://www.provolibrary.com/research-subjects?pid=1896&sid=2018:Learning-Express-Library  – This is a tool that provides a wide range of tutorials for learners of all ages.
o   Software tutorials – includes MS software as well as basic computer skills, Illustrator and Photoshop.
o   Practice tests for graduate entrance exams, career exams, etc.
o   Improve math, writing, & reading skills – Tutorials, practice sets, and ebooks.
·         Lynda.com (Coming soon!!) 
o   1030 courses on business, leadership, marketing, and project management
o   2,326 courses on audio and music production, CAD, design, and photography
o   1,284 courses on big data, developer, IT, and web. 
·         Mango Languages (Orem Library lib.orem.orghttps://connect.mangolanguages.com/orem/login?u=547170
o   Over 70 languages available!
·         Learn It Programs http://www.provolibrary.com/learn-it
o   Upcoming programs:
§  In May: Healthy Habits & Yoga for Writers
§  In June: Bee Keeping & Zumba
·         Book Club Sets - http://www.provolibrary.com/book-club-sets
o   We support local book clubs by lending out 15 copies of a book and a discussion guide.
·         Project Read (Adult Literacy) - www.projectreadutah.org  Volunteers and students needed!
·         The Attic Exhibits - http://www.provolibrary.com/the-attic
o   All sorts of interesting exhibits.  Later this year, a Pearl Harbor exhibit is coming.
·         Books (in a variety of formats) - https://provo.ent.sirsi.net/client/en_US/pl/

Community Opportunities (more at http://www.provolibrary.com/educational-resources
·         UVU Community & Continuing Education (www.evu.edu/ce
·         Utah State Extension Services (http://extension.usu.edu/

Online Opportunities
·         Distance Education Courses
·         Open Courses

Other Useful Library Tools:
·         Auto Repair Reference Center (http://www.provolibrary.com/a-z-resources-list?pid=1897&sid=2006:Auto-Repair-Reference-Center) - Repair instructions, wiring diagrams, labor time estimates, and an Auto IQ feature.
·         Consumer Health Information (http://www.provolibrary.com/a-z-resources-list?pid=1897&sid=2008:Consumer-Health-Info)  - Please don’t only rely on medical information from the Internet.
·         Freegal (http://provo.freegalmusic.com/index) - Download and keep 3 songs every week and stream 3 hours of music each day.
·         Global Road Warrior (http://www.provolibrary.com/research-subjects?pid=1896&sid=2014:Global-Road-Warrior- Helps travelers (both passport and armchair varieties) learn more about countries around the world.
·         Hobbies & Crafts Reference Center (http://www.provolibrary.com/research-subjects?pid=1896&sid=10624:Hobbies-and-Crafts-Reference-Center) - Arts, needlecrafts, outdoor recreation, astronomy, scrapbooking, model building, etc.
·         Home Improvement Reference Center (http://www.provolibrary.com/research-subjects?pid=1896&sid=10624:Hobbies-and-Crafts-Reference-Center) - Decorating, plumbing, remodeling, woodworking, electrical, etc.
·         Legal Reference Center (http://www.provolibrary.com/research-subjects?pid=1896&sid=10626:Legal-Reference-Center) - Includes some online forms and legal advice.
·         Morningstar Investment Research Center (http://www.provolibrary.com/research-subjects?pid=1896&sid=2023:Morningstar-Investment-Research-Center) - Kind of intense, but great if you want to learn more about investing.
·         Novelist Plus (http://www.provolibrary.com/research-subjects?pid=1896&sid=2025:NoveList-Plus) - Readers advisory tool.  Think Goodreads only it’s moderated by librarians.
·         One Click Digital (http://provout.oneclickdigital.com/) - Downloadable audiobooks.
·         Overdrive (http://pioneerutah.lib.overdrive.com) - Downloadable ebooks, audiobooks, movies, and magazines.
·         ReferenceUSA (http://www.provolibrary.com/research-subjects?pid=1896&sid=2030:ReferenceUSA) - Nationwide white and yellow pages with some amazing features.  Also some job searching tools.
·         Small Business Reference Center (http://www.provolibrary.com/research-subjects?pid=1896&sid=10628:Small-Business-Reference-Center) - Start-up kit, business plans, business basics, etc.
·         Summer Reading Program (http://www.provolibrary.com/teen-adult-srp) - Read and win!
·         World Book Online (http://www.provolibrary.com/research-subjects?pid=1896&sid=2037:World-Book-Online) - Online encyclopedia from your childhood...in case you don’t trust Wikipedia.
·         Zinio (https://www.rbdigital.com/uplc/service/zinio/landing Orem Library - Downloadable magazine.

Saturday, April 23, 2016

A Life of Learning

This week was the BYU’s graduation and I am getting flashbacks of my own graduation. Congratulations to everyone that is graduating. This is not a small accomplishment. I remember when I started school and graduation looked like something that would happen in the very far, far and away future. Where did the time go? Wait, there are many theories that attempt to answer that question, but the last time I tried to read a book about this topic, my mind was blown away by the amount of information that I needed to know before I could understand this book! There is so much that we can learn. I think that this is why Jacob said “O be wise; what can I say more?” (Jacob 6:12) I can hear Jacob say “Be wise and choose carefully what you do with this opportunity you have to learn. Be wise on where you spend your time. Be wise on how you use the knowledge you gain. Be wise, there is no more to say, but to say ‘be wise.’”

Recently, I learned something about my own family history related to education that I want to share with you. My grandpa only finished 2nd grade and my grandma had a few more years but didn’t finish elementary school. When their oldest child showed interest in studying more than elementary school, they couldn’t offer her the opportunity to continue. After thinking about their situation and knowing that their other children were not going to have a formal education either, they decided that the only way to give them an opportunity to study was to move to the city. So they moved to a city they didn’t know, finding odd jobs here and there to be able to provide for their children. I remember my grandpa worked as a gardener at the place where now the Mexico City MTC is located. Anyone that talks about him always says that he was a hard worker. I was very small to know this quality about him. In my mind, he was the grandpa that had candy on the Christmas tree and I think that he knew me as the the grandchild that organized night operations to obtain that candy.

My mom told me that when we were little she heard a talk in conference about the importance for children to have an education to prepare them for the future. She worried so much about our future. My parents designed a plan to help us learn anything that they thought we needed to know. Many of you probably experienced something like this, parents that had similar educational aspirations for their children, in many cases here is where school, sports, musical instruments, and many other things come into play. I have tried to find this talk and I have not found it. This might be a case where the spirit speaks and gives personal inspiration. My parents had a bulletproof plan, and it was implemented! My mom probably didn’t take into account how her example was part of that education. To this day, I see her studying the scriptures along with the institute manuals every single day, over and over again.


I like reading. I have to thank my dad for all the books that he made available for me to read. I am also very thankful for the Provo City Library, it keeps my mind and my wallet in check. One of my favorite series is Harry Potter. When some of the books came out, I was one of those that read the book the minute I got the copy. I would go into the many forums to read about the theories and I would re-read the books to make sure that I didn’t miss any detail. R.A.B. Who was it? Mind blowing! It is good! I sometimes question my judgment, especially when I watch some of the scenes in the movies. Scary!!

One day at church, we had a lesson about learning. The scripture in D&C 109:7 hit me like a spike from a BYU men’s volleyball player, “And as all have not faith, seek ye diligently and teach one another words of wisdom; yea, seek ye out of the best books words of wisdom, seek learning even by study and also by faith.” I think that I felt like Scott Sterling (Studio C). 
I know we need to learn many different topics to have a good understanding of how God works. I believe that the reason why this scripture made a face impact is because I was putting more effort in one area, Harry Potter, than in the scriptures. I thought about a future meeting with God and about how I could answer any question about the Harry Potter books but that I didn’t want to face God without knowing Him. The only way to know Him is by studying His words and applying His teachings in my life. I still have a long way to go, but I am glad that the spirit is there to help us know what things we need to improve or change in our lives.

Like I mentioned before, I didn’t find the talk my mom heard, but I found other talks that could help you and me to find what God wants us to do now. Here are the links:
and pretty much anything by Elder Bednar

I think about the example that my grandparents gave me of doing something that would bring blessings to their children, and my own parents planning a way for my siblings and I to receive many words and examples of wisdom. The Book of Mormon most common word is “Remember.” This life is given to us to help us learn and to help us apply what we learn, and I am told that if I don’t learn chemistry in this life, I will have to take it in the eternities. God is giving us the opportunity to learn, and in many situations we have learned beyond what we originally planned. I believe there is a reason why we have this opportunity.

“O be wise; what can I say more?”

Doralia Serrano, Relief Society secretary

Tuesday, April 12, 2016

On Being Genuine - healing rather than hiding

I've been wanting to write about this tender experience for a long time now ...
On Monday, March 7th my 28 year old niece Kristi (now 29), died due to an accidental heroin overdose. Read her obituary HERE.

When I found out, I was overcome with emotion and I couldn't think straight and I was so so so upset. I didn't know quite what to do. As the Relief Society president, I had a few things that night I had planned on taking care of and a few others things I wanted to do later that week. I knew I was not going to be able to handle them in the emotional state I was in so I handed things over to my presidency and the compassionate service leaders immediately. It was so nice to be able to do that. Initially, I told them to keep this all quiet because I didn't want a lot of attention drawn to me or to make the whole situation/circumstance become everyone else's problem etc.

That week, I just happened to read this conference talk, "On Being Genuine" by President Uchtdorf. It really touched me and so many things he said in this talk spoke to me. Here is one part I loved:
Kristi and Kari's (twin nieces) high school graduation in 2005

The Church is not an automobile showroom—a place to put ourselves on display so that others can admire our spirituality, capacity, or prosperity. It is more like a service center, where vehicles in need of repair come for maintenance and rehabilitation.

And are we not, all of us, in need of repair, maintenance, and rehabilitation?
We come to church not to hide our problems but to heal them.

I realized I needed help and by keeping it all quiet, I wasn't allowing others to help me and I wasn't allowing myself to receive the emotional help I needed. I had some visits scheduled on Wednesday night and I debated about cancelling them or going on them and sharing with the sisters what had happened. After reading this, I knew that I needed to go and visit these sisters. I had an amazing experience - I received the help and comfort and support I needed at that time - that I didn't even realize I needed. We visited three of our lovely RS sisters and each one of them offered their testimony and love and support as I shared with them what was going on in my life. It was a powerful experience and a great lesson to me on being genuine (not hiding my problems). I will always remember those visits and the support and love I felt from not only those sisters we visited but by so many of you as you learned about this tragic event.
Kristi and me at the top of the Y in 2012.

My heart still hurts for the loss of this niece. She was only 10 years younger than me and we were close. I spent a lot of time with her growing up and even as adults - she lived with me for a time as I tried to help her with her addiction etc. She was my golfing and basketball buddy and we loved a lot of the same music. Now, a month later, I'm not grieving on the same level as I was that first week - I can function, I am no longer in shock - but I recognize the importance of sharing and being real.

Before my mission in 1997 - Kristi is on my left.
My sister (Kristi's mother) insisted that the exact cause of death be listed in her obituary. This served as another example of being genuine. She felt that by being honest about how Kristi died, others would benefit - perhaps find the help they need to overcome an addiction, or maybe think twice before trying some kind of addictive substance etc. This obituary also helped us all see Kristi as a real person, with likes and dislikes and with real dreams and struggles. Kristi was absolutely herself in every way. She had a hard time accepting love from others, and obviously love from our Heavenly Father and His son. But she had hope ... she spent the weekend before she died going through the Provo City Center temple open house (an experience she requested and sought out).
I know our Heavenly Father loves all of us with a perfect love, a love that none of us can comprehend with our limited and mortal bodies. I know Kristi is okay. The fact that she knew better and still made bad choices, is okay because we all do that almost every day. I know that because of the Atonement of Christ, we can be forgiven of our sins and we can find peace when mourning the death of a loved one. I found a lot of comfort in many of your testimonies, experiences, insights, and hugs that were offered to me at that time. 

Thank you so much. And thank you for allowing me to share this with you now. I'm so blessed to know you all and have you in my life!



Tuesday, April 5, 2016

Am I My Sister's Keeper?

I served in the second area of my mission for seven and a half months. While there, my companions and I worked hard to teach investigators and strengthen new members. These investigators and members had to travel by train every Sunday to attend church. As missionaries we encouraged them and prayed for them as we watched these new members struggle to develop the faith they needed to do this. However, despite our best efforts the new members slowly fell away until about a year after I left the area it was closed. These members had testimonies and they had faith, but as I served them and their ward a train-ride away I knew what they were missing. They were missing fellowship. The needed friendship and support from each other that they weren’t receiving because they weren’t participating in the visiting teaching program.
I’ve heard several of you express similar feelings as mine so I know I’m not alone in saying this. I have a difficult time stepping outside of myself to meet new people, especially at church on Sunday surrounded by so many people. I moved into this ward over a year ago and kept to myself, sitting on the back row of meetings and just listening to the lessons and comments. Now I can say that I feel like I know many of you and have friends in this ward to whom I can turn if I ever really needed something. The reason for this is the fellowship that I found through visiting teaching. My friends came from my companions, from the sisters I visited and from the sisters who visited me. I have been blessed to not need much in the way of physical support but I definitely feel the benefits of emotional support that I receive from visiting teaching. 
In the old testament when the Lord confronts Cain after he slays Abel, “the Lord said unto Cain, Where is Abel thy brother? And he said, I know not: Am I my brother’s keeper?” Genesis 4:9
The simple answer to Cain’s question is yes. We are our brother’s and sister’s keepers. Sister Julie B. Beck said, “I hope my granddaughters will understand that visiting teaching is an expression of their discipleship and a significant way to honor their covenants. This element of our discipleship should closely resemble the ministry of our Savior.”
I know that the visiting teaching program is revelation from the Lord for us. I know that the Lord asks that it be a priority in our lives and that as we make it a priority it will bless both us and those we visit, often in ways we don’t realize. I know that it could have blessed the members in Pinhal Novo, Portugal, that it can bless each of you and I know that it has blessed and continues to bless me.

Rachel Gathro, Visiting Teaching District Leader
April Visiting Teaching Message